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Dysfunctional Roles People Play
Many of us were raised in dysfunctional families. Within those systems, the family tends to enable dysfunctional...Dysfunctional Roles People Play
Many of us were raised in dysfunctional families. Within those systems, the family tends to enable dysfunctional roles for its members. Children on a subconscious level assume one of four roles to cope with the shame of the family. These roles, unless identified and dealt with, carry over into adulthood and can have serious effects.
What kind of roles to children and adults play as a result of their past family dynamics?
The Hero: Always feeling like you have to save the day, be the best at everything you try, always feeling the pressure to perform and have it all together. And for the most part, you do (appear) to have it all together. But deep down inside you’re exhausted.
The Invisible: No matter where you are or who you’re with, you don’t feel like you have the permission to speak up and say what you really think. You feel invisible and you don’t feel like you deserve to be heard. Subsequently you feel and think as though everyone is more important than you are.
The Clown: You don’t talk about the issues — you just laugh about them. You don’t accept input – you just laugh it off. Your motto in life is to not take anything seriously. But every now and then you feel so confused inside and you’re not sure why.
The Scapegoat: You feel guilty for the things that happen around you. As a kid, you always got into trouble and you expected to be punished. You live as though you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop, always waiting for something to happen so that you can be blamed for it. You have a “blame it on you” attitude.
Do you identify with any of these things?
Dr. Self made this video for you, to help you identify which of these habits you have been playing in life, how to understand the root of the reason why you have carried on these habits for so long, and what you can do to finally break free.
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CreatedFriday, 05 July 2019
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