by Dr. Ray Self
The Importance of Speech
James 1:19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;
Speech is very significant in God's plan.
Speech is unique to man.
Genesis 2:7 – "And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into
his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul."
God created man as a living soul, different from the animals that God created. Man can write and speak a language.
The first example of speech was when Adam began to name all of the animals.
Speech has the potential for good or evil.
Proverbs 20 21 – "From the fruit of his mouth a man is satisfied; he is satisfied by
the yield of his lips. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits."
Speech can praise and glorify God.
Psalm 19:14 – "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable
in Thy sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer."
Psalm 34:1 – "I WILL bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth."
Speech can uplift, encourage and unite people.
Ephesians 4:15 – "Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ."
Ephesians 4:29 – "Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good f
or edifying, as fits the occasion, that it may impart grace to those who hear."
Speech can cause harm in the lives of others.
Proverbs 11:9 – "With his mouth the godless man would destroy his neighbor, but by knowledge the righteous are delivered."
Our ability to speak allows us to counsel one another.
Proverbs 11:14 – "Where there is no guidance, a people falls; but in an abundance of counselors there is safety."
Our ability to speak allows God to put words in our mouths.
Exodus 4:15-16 – "And thou shalt speak unto him, and put words in his mouth: and I will be with thy mouth, and with his mouth, and will teach you what ye shall do.
He shall speak for you to the people; and he shall be a mouth for you, and you shall be to him as God."
Our ability to speak allows us to pray.
Acts 1:14 – "All these with one accord devoted themselves to prayer,
together with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brothers."
Our speech is a reflection of our minds.
Proverbs 16:23 – "The mind of the wise makes his speech judicious, and adds persuasiveness to his lips."
Words can bring judgment.
Matthew 12:36-37 – "I tell you, on the day of judgment men will render account for every careless word
they utter; for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."
Speech affects the speaker.
Proverbs 12:13 – "An evil man is ensnared by the transgression of his lips, but the righteous escapes from trouble."
God is concerned about our ability to communicate.
Effective communication is more than exchanging information. It is about creating an understanding of the emotions and intentions behind the statement.
Effective communication imparts information with the full intent of what is said.
Effective communicators make their hearts known. Insincerity is always annoying to the listener.
by Dr. Ray Self
Php 2:3 -4 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more
important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Every person is valuable to God.
Your thoughts and words are valuable and matter.
Other people's thoughts and words are essential and matter.
A good listener has two advantages.
by Dr. Ray Self
Effective Communication in Ministry - Part 2
Communication in ministry involves teaching, preaching, counseling, spiritual gifts, and exhortation.
Each area of ministry requires a different form of communication.
Communicating Through Spiritual Gifts and Exhortation
Gifts such as words of knowledge, words of wisdom, and prophecy require assertive communication.
Communicating spiritual gifts requires boldness and faith.
Spiritual gift communication should be limited to what God has spoken or directed.
Adding to God's word is usually a work of the flesh and can cause harm. (Not the same thing as revelation)
Prophecy and Exhortation
Prophetic words and exhortations can become mixed and confusing.
To prophesy is to hear God and relay His message as precisely as possible to the recipient without explanation, coaching, or interpretation.
1 Cor 14:1 Pursue love, yet desire earnestly spiritual gifts, but especially that you may prophesy.
The prophetic gift in operation is hearing God speak or see a picture from the Lord and relay what you have seen and heard without addition.
The gift of exhortation is not typically supernatural.
Rom 12:6 Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them
accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of his faith; if service, in his serving; or he who teaches,
in his teaching; or he who exhorts, in his exhortation;
Exhort - To incite by words or advice; to animate or urge by arguments to a good deed or any laudable conduct or course of action. (KJV Dictionary)
Means of Exhortation:
by Dr. Ray Self
Effective Communication in Ministry
Communication in ministry involves teaching, preaching, counseling, spiritual gifts, and exhortation.
Each area of ministry requires a different form of communication.
Teaching and Preaching
A teacher will explain the word of God.
A preacher will proclaim the word of God.
Effective teaching is much more than relaying information.
Effective teachers will impart information to their students. A good teacher will reach the heart, not just the mind.
An effective teacher observes their audience to determine if they are engaged and understand the message.
The teacher should use stories, examples, comparisons, and other creative ways, including humor, to make their point.
An effective teacher understands that time is critical. Too much information spoken too long will lose the audience every time.
Learning Styles
A teacher should understand that people learn in different ways.
Auditory learner – the student does best when hearing the information. Probably will not take many notes.
Visual learner – responds well to graphs, arrows, charts, diagrams, or meaningful symbols.
Reading/Writing learners – do best with hand-outs, PowerPoint slides, written assignments, or reading material.
Kinesthetic learners – do best with hands-on. They will thrive in a lab setting. They like to utilize touch. However, they can struggle in conventional classrooms.
Preaching
A good preacher is prepared but allows room for the Holy Spirit to speak.
A good preacher focuses on a central message he wants to impart.
An influential preacher seeks the Lord to determine what message the Lord wants for this particular audience.
Preaching Styles
Topical – preaches a topic such as forgiveness and uses scripture from various books of the Bible to support his claim.
Expository – the preacher chooses a passage and preaches it verse by verse.
Types and Shadows - the preacher uses a Bible story to symbolize the person or message he wants to present.
Textual - the preacher reads a text and pulls a single message from the text.
Romans 10:14 How then will they call on Him in whom they have not believed? How will they believe in
Him whom they have not heard? And how will they hear without a preacher?
by Dr. Ray Self
Resolving Conflict
Ephesians 4:26 – Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Conflict handled in a mature, Godly way can be healthy for a relationship.
Conflict resolved in the right way can: